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The Adoption Web

“You can find anything on the web,” Hank said the other day. “What did I ever do without it?” When it comes to adoption, it seems like you really can find everything you would want to know. It can be overwhelming (the sheer number of websites out there). It can be sad (the sheer number of kids). It can be frustrating (why do you have to fill out the same kind of form over and over?)

Waiting to be matched with a child is hell, but at least we have the web to distract us. What would we have done in the days before the web? Visited our agency and flipped through the binder of kids in the system. Read books and magazines on adoption and foster care. I still do these things, but really, I can’t imagine not having the web. We never feel disconnected from the process now because we know how to look up information online anytime. Once we forgot which website we found a child on, and because of his unusual name, we were able to find his online profile in a matter of seconds, thanks to Google.

We’ve spent hours looking at photos and reading online profiles. There’s the boy who’s a few years older than we thought we’d like, but seems like a great kid. There’s the child who could put 500-piece puzzles together, then take them apart, turn the pieces over, and put them together again. The brother and sister from Kansas City, which it turns out is over a day’s drive from here….

And although we love being able to research topics and find out about waiting kids any time of the day or night, and I’m a huge reader and want to keep up with all the books and magazines, talking to other people has been a large part of our adoption web. Since we have started telling people we hope to adopt, the response has been overwhelmingly positive. And not only that. When we decided on foster-to-adopt we were nervous becuase we hardly knew anyone who had adopted from foster care. We have since learned that lots of people have been touched by adoption in one way or another.

In adoption circles, people talk about writing life books, books that are geared to children’s ages and developmental stages that help them understand their situation, family history, and where they are going. I can’t wait to help my child or children with this. But even so far in the journey, we’ve been lucky to hear so many life stories of people whose lives have been changed by adoption. the Internet is invaluable for finding information, but these life stories are what make adopting seem real.

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February 12, 2012 at 1:12 PM Leave a comment


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